- Do I go for a 3rd beta? If so, then when? I could go tomorrow (21dpo). Or I could go sometime next week.
- Do I go in for a 5 week ultrasound next week? It wouldn't tell me anything but how many there are.
- Do I just hold out until the 16th when I should be able to see a heartbeat?
Um.... yes, I have NOOOOO kind of anxiety whatsoever about this, as you can tell.
I think I felt some rumblings today, as in some mild crampiness. I'm still very tired and sleepy. I've been napping and going to bed early. I'm a big fan of sleep in general though, so that all works out.
I'm sure this is TMI, but... I walked into the cafeteria today and it was breakfast for lunch. This overwhelming waft of sausages enveloped me. I gagged. I started tearing up. Children started looking at me kind of funny-like. My coworker took over, and I very promptly and politely went to the bathroom to hurl. I had been doing fine all day up until that, even this morning I got up and wasn't that queasy. But those sausages.... yuck!
Oh, and the fish counter at the grocery store was horrible yesterday. Soooo smells make me nauseous, and if I don't eat I get really hungry and a little nauseous.
I have a checkup visit with the regular endocrinologist tomorrow, because I am hypothyroid and am on synthroid (synthetic hormone) and need to be monitored. The checkups are just randomly done, every few months or so. The timing the past three visits just so happened to coincide with either the 2ww for the beta, or the 2ww for the 1st ultrasound. So I will be explaining my whole deal to her again. And even though she is more than wonderful about it, I hate the deja vu of it all. Am. So. Ready. To. Move. On. withmylife!!!!!!
I'm skipping my coworker's baby shower tomorrow (as in 2, but one is a guy whose wife is expecting). I will use the doctor's appointment as an excuse. I just don't want to go there (literally and figuratively). Not now. Not while I'm all vulnerable. I may sneak some gifts to them later. Target usually has really cute bunny slippers. Maybe if I wear a blindfold, I can still find them in the aisle without having to look upon beeeee-you-tea-ful baby-type stuffs. Damn you Tarjay. You saucy minx.
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I can't tell you what to do, just what I did in your shoes. All the extra betas and ultrasounds I could get.
Not sure what you should do, at the moment i'm also getting all the extra betas I can get. 16dpo, 19dpo(today) and then next week 23dpo. I think I will try and get a scan as soon as it's possible :-)
Yesterday I walked into a pizza shop and nearly hurled from the smell!
Beta #s can get sort of weird when you're at the stage you're at. If it were me, I wouldn't be doing another beta, but I'd be ALL OVER any ultrasound I could get. Week five, week 6, week 7. Bring 'em on!
SO HAPPY YOU'RE VOMITING!!!
I say that to my IRL pregnant friends & they just don't understand. You know what I mean, though.
Beta... If you want to, but know that it might be wonky.
If you can get an early u/s, I'd go for it... remembering that around 5w you won't see much at all. I know you know that, but it's still so easy to get hopes up. If you can wait, I'd wait until 6.5 weeks. But I know how hard it is to wait. *g* My first sonos were always just at/before 6w, and we NEVER saw a hb, fwiw.
The anxiety is normal. Scary, but normal. *hugs*
Getting sick is a good sign!!! I know how horrid it can feel though...
I echo what has been said - I was a beta and u/s whore but do what makes you comfortable!
hmmm, havent been there before clearly so its hard to say. but based on everyone else's comments, i would say go for the ultrasounds but skip the beta.
best of luck on whatever you decide!
hope the smelly sickness gets a little better, but i'm sure its still a comforting reminder that everything is going well in there :)
Oh honey, skip the shower. And honestly, since you asked, I'd say skip the optional appointments and just go in when you would be able to hear a heartbeat. Any appointments before then would just give you more to speculation about, obsess over, overthink about, etc. Just sit tight and be hopeful until the heartbeat appointment. Really. I think you'll just spin your wheels if you do the other stuff too. I say this because I've been there and but mainly because of what I know of your history-- you can get pregnant pretty well, but staying pregnant until the baby is viable is tougher. These extra appointments aren't going to tell you whether you've made it to viability this time. Just wait. I know it's hard, but you can do it.
I vote not another beta. Beyond that it's your call though.
Get the extra beta at least, because it'll give you some information - hopefully the good kind. Don't go for the ultrasound as you won't see a heartbeat yet so I don't know how much it'll help yet? Normally I wouldn't give assvice, but you asked, and I think after all you've been through, going for an extra appointment is deserved.
I just had my 1st m/c (I know I'm an amateur) at 8 weeks (blighted ovum) and I've asked myself a million times since what I'll want done next try. I had wonderful betas and no spotting or cramping, but yet no baby. So, I'd probably just wait until you can see a fetal pole.
Get what makes you able to sleep at night. Being relaxed at this point in a pregnancy is key and if knowing more helps with that then do it. We won't think you're a little nutty for doing it either. I think any of us would do the same thing.
Go for the super-early ultrasound - and I say that with semi-grim determination, only because it might give you information that you wouldn't get any other way. Maybe there are two sacs, but then only one develops? Maybe there are two but one is different in some way?
I am always on the info-gathering war-path, so I would go to any appointment that might yield a tidbit of fact. Maybe not the beta, though - not so useful and anyway, it sounds like you are getting enough needles!
I'm going to agree with Kathleen here because I dont think any of the optional testing will actually give you the answer you want. You wanna know that the baby is in tip top shape and a betta might not help as the hcg levels go a bit wobbly after a while and an early scan won't show a heart beat so it won't give you anything concrete to hang onto. It might just put you further into a state of limbo as no matter how much you try to tell yourself that you know you won't see a heartbeat it still makes your own heart sink a bit when it's not there. Somehow we think our embie will in the tiny percentage of ones that show a hb early on, but rarely does this happen. If you can hang in there and wait a bit longer I think you will ultimately feel better for it. Good luck!
Personally...I'd skip the 3rd beta, but go for any ultrasound that was possible. Why not!? I got one at 5w3d for spotting and at least was able to see the gestational sac, which gave me some comfort. If they're offering...go for it! :-)
The morning sickness starts! I predicted it with those high beta numbers!!! Get ready! (I hated it but silently thanked the m/s since it constantly reminded me that I was pregnant, which I needed. Also...just so you know, morning sickness has been proven to be associated with good outcomes...well, or multiples...um guess that's not as comforting as I meant to be?).
I think you might want to go for another beta if you are getting really nervous (I was still peeing on sticks to prove I was preggo) but I'd probably wait on the u/s unless you are really worried about how many sacs there are in there. Also - the endo is so important this early. My synthroid had to be upped in the first few weeks of pregnancy because the production of estrogen often blocks it...I went from 125 mcg to 150 at about 6 weeks. And, with that high hcg, you may be in the same boat. I'm thinkinging happy thoughts for you.
In my humble opinion, I would wait for the ultrasound that will give you real confirmation. Take this time to assure yourself that clearly something is working right and that you'll get to see the heartbeat (or two) soon.
Wow- so many opionions, and so varied. I vote for you doing whatever sets your mind at ease. My happiest extra appointments were ultrasounds. Even before you can see a HB, it's nice to see that something is growing and it's in the right place. I'm so happy for you!!
No personal experience, but from observation, I would say go for the early u/s, knowing that you won't hear the heartbeat, but it might reassure you to know everything is where it should be....
As for the shower, definitely skip it. No need for extra stress right now!
And so very cool that you puked!
(Well, you know what I mean!)
Tarjay is the DEVIL when you're in a waiting period...I could totally get the slippers for you because I konw my Tarjay that well I could do it with my eyes closed!
I say do what make you feel good!
I agree with most of the pp's...do what you need to do to be comfortable.
As someone, who like you, can get pregnant, but not stay pregnant..I'd probably do both. That or go out and buy more HPT's, because I'm crazy like that! ;)
Morning sickness is a good thing!
Hmm. Let's see. I say go for the 3rd beta, AND the 5 week u/s AND do one on the 16th. I'm really regretting not pushing for an additional ultrasound this week. I mean, it's my dime-- why can't I pay for the additional scan if it'll give me some peace of mind?
Smells are hitting me hard, too. I haven't officially gotten nauseated enough to actually vomit, but I've been in some situations where I've gotten really dang angry at people for creating the unpleasant smells (like the auto tech dude who I'm pretty sure farted in my car before he got out to hand the keys back to me this morning...). So far, it's just extreme pissed-off-edness at the people who choose shitty cheap perfume or smoke or eat smelly things for lunch, but I predict that any day, I'm gonna start losing it when those smells hit me.
I'd skip the baby shower right now, too. I seem to have caught some weird sort of verbal diarrhea, where I cannot stop myself from telling people that I'm pregnant, that it's twins, that it's early, etc. WHY do I have to keep telling random strangers about this??? (though, granted, this morning's spill was to a mom of two adorable twin 4 year old girls, so it was more like commiserating/bonding than it was random stranger sharing...). Anyhow, I'd be a basket case at a baby shower right now, unable to really be truly happy yet, but unable to keep my mouth shut appropriately.
And yes. Target = HELL for the tentatively pregnant. The number of times that I've crossed paths with someone who for whatever random reason doesn't deserve parenthood (yelling obscenities at a 2 year old, talking on a cell phone, telling an infant to QUIT CRYING, I'm TRYING TO TALK, HERE, etc.) is too vast to count. It just points out how truly unfair it can be sometimes. (But yes. They do have some really gorgeous baby-type stuff...)
Hey..
I hope you find the best solution for you... and my thoughts are with you.
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