Monday, January 12, 2009

2nd Ultrasound - 7w2d Edited

This is a nightmare.

The RE said that the pregnancy isn't developing as it should - as in it's very far behind. Everything is measuring smaller. There was a very slow heartbeat.

My RE said he has never seen a pregnancy like this with a good outcome. That I could keep taking the progesterone and come in for another ultrasound, just to be sure.

Or I could stop the progesterone now and take some sort of suppository that would end the pregnancy within a week. He talked about this helping from an emotional standpoint, being able to move on.

We're going in on Friday afternoon for another ultrasound. Sorry I left that out of the original post.

This is so fucked up.



I was such a mess all day, and almost threw up several times before the ultrasound. I'm so tired of my fertility being such a freakin' tragedy.

52 comments:

Collins Family said...

The RE may think that it is easier that way but it is your baby and miracles can happen. If you want my advice I would keep taking the progesterone and go back in for another ultrasound. You never know but PJ as long as there is a heartbeat do not give up on your baby. I will pray and I know others will as well. Please let me know if there us anything I can do.

Denise said...

Oh PJ, I'm so sorry. I think you should do whatever you won't regret later. If you think you will regret not giving it a bit more time, I would wait. Again, I'm so sorry. It just isn't fair.

Mermaid said...

Oh, no. I am so sorry. For my assvice, I tend to agree with the above. I'd keep taking the progesterone and let my body work it out. PJ, I'm so sorry you are going through this. IF is just not fair and this is doubly not fair!

Chelle said...

oh PJ. I have been thinking of you all day. I'm am so sorry you are in this position. I am not going to give you any advice, just know that I am sending you lots of love.

((BIG GIANT HUG))

Leah said...

I am right there with you honey. Waiting is just so hard. I wish you could just know what's going on. This sucks.

Melanie said...

Yes, there are no words other than fucked up. I'm ready for the end of the sadness, uncertainty and emotional ups and down. You do what your heart and head guide you to do, either way.

I know your heart is breaking. We'll be here with the superglue and duct tape.

Clio said...

PJ. I don't know what to say.
I'm sorry you are going through this.
Sending you love and prayers

momofonefornow said...

Sucks, sucks, sucks! I am so pissed for you right now. Why does this have to happen? I want answers and I want your baby to be a miracle.

God, give PJ a miracle!!! She needs it, and the rest of us need to know it is possible.

I am in tears right now. This is wretched.

Amy said...

Oh PJ I'm so sorry you're in this situation! I'm thinking about you and your little one...hoping Friday brings good news.

Sending you lots of love and ((HUGS))

'Murgdan' said...

I'm so sorry you're going through this...

Lisa said...

I am really sorry that this is happening to you. ((HUGS)).

Seriously? - Erin said...

Hey PJ. Just wanted you to know that I am thinking about you. I will hope for the best for you.

GINA and KEV said...

I wish you didn't have to deal with this. Take some deep breaths, listen to your heart, and know that whatever decision you make, it will be the right one.

Jen said...

I don't even know what to say, except that I'm sorry.

Sarah said...

Oh PJ, its just not fair. I am so so sorry. I agree with the others that have said to keep up your hope. Miracles can indeed happen. As long as there is a heartbeat, I say move to the next ultrasound.

I wish I could help you.

Big hugs.

itsazooaroundhere said...

Oh, I am so incredibly sorry. This is unfair, and so fucked up. I'm sending you hope and strength to get through this, and thinking of you.

Just Another Infertile said...

Oh PJ! This must be so hard for you. I want to scream "IT'S NOT FAIR!" We should all get a pass for an easy, uneventful pregnancy. I am praying for a miracle for you Friday. I was thinking of you all day. We are here for you.

chicklet said...

Gawd, I just don't even know what to say. How can this possibly go this way? You should be done with this and not having to deal with this level of shit. Fuck.

Isn't it pretty to think so said...

Um...your pregnancy is developing slowly, but it IS developing! I don't want to give you false hope, but I had a very similar situation with my current pregnancy. We were scheduling a D&C and everything, and then...well, things just kept moving along. i was just always behind where they thought I should be. Anyway...just wanted to let you know. i am praying for you and if you want to talk more about what I went through, just let me know.

Kymberli said...

Much love, love, love, and more love to you. I am praying hard and not giving up. You are in my thoughts and heavy in my heart, PJ.

Pegs said...

I am so sorry you are going through this. There is still a heartbeat so there is life. Miracles happen and I pray that this is yours. I can't imagine the heartfelt emotions you and your family is going through. I am keeping faith and praying for strength in what you are going through.

Lea said...

I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I am sending lots of love and hugs.

Candi B. said...

you are in my prayers. hoping for a miracle...they happen every day.

Alex and Jill said...

Oh PJ, I'm so sorry this is happening. I'm glad you are going back in for another U/S.

This certainly isn't fair.

Know that I'm praying for you and the baby.

((LOTS OF LOVE))

Chelle said...

I just don't even know what to say, but I want you to know that you are absolutely in my thoughts, prayers, and heart. I am so sorry that you are going through this and that things aren't going better. It all seems so unfair.

s.e. said...

To know you have life still growing inside you but to also know that it is almost impossible to cling to the hope of everything turning around is an absolute nightmare. I hate that you must endure this. My heart just hurts for you, PJ.

I also know that no matter how fucked up it all seems and no matter how fucked up you feel, it does get better. You will survive this.

Hollie said...

I am so sorry it has turned out to be a such a nightmare. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Chhandita said...

(((hugs))))....I don'twhat I can say that will make you feel better...Hold on Iguess

Lorraine said...

Oh, no... I am so sorry, dear PJ. It is so absolutely not fair and there just isn't anything to say except that it 100% sucks.

Do what's best, little one - if you can be strong and thrive, there is so much hope and love for you!

lostintranslation said...

Oh PJ, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this! You're in my thoughts and I hope for a miracle on Friday. Hang in there. We're here for you.

Leigh said...

What a nightmare!

For what it's worth, I'd continue and let my body do what it wants to, because miracles do happen!

sprogblogger said...

OH, I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. I've been there. It sucks. I have no words to adequately commiserate with you. However, I'd agree with above posters in the "as long as there's a heartbeat, there's a chance" camp. Hang in there, sweetie. Thinking of you.

KimboSue said...

Don't give up on your baby. As long as there is a heartbeat, there is a baby. Don't let the doctors talk you into doing something you don't want to do. Go with your heart. Thinking of you....((HUGS))

Away2me (Deanna) said...

Oh PJ (((Hugs)))) I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

Shinejil said...

I think you're doing the right thing, checking and doublechecking just in case things work out--because, yes, very bizarre things happen all the time when it comes to women's bodies.

I know the terrible mix of preg hormones and despair and anger. It is nauseating and bleak. Just get through this one day at a time. You can make the big calls later. But now, you have to take good care of yourself, your heart, your soul.

Sending warm virtual hugs and lots of love.

minus one said...

Oh, I'm so sorry. I know there is no magic thing to say that will bring you the comfort you need and deserve. I hope it is of some help to know that you are not alone. Many, many hugs to you....

annacyclopedia said...

No, no, no! I'm so sorry, PJ. This is all just so unfair and so wrong. I'm praying for you and for a miracle, and still holding hope for you that things will turn around, and for that little heart to keep beating and getting stronger and stronger and stronger every minute, every hour.

projectkjetil said...

Oh, so so sorry.

Hoping for you that you're able to come to a peace and make the best decision for yourself. If that means holding out for a miracle, know that you have tons of support behind you. If that means following the doctor's suggestion, know that you have tons of support behind you.

Dreamer4agift said...

Here from LFCA...I'm sorry you're having to deal with any of this. It's def. not fair to face IF, finally get a positive out of it, and then deal with something negative. I'm hoping along with everyone else that Friday shows a miracle in the making! ((hugs))

battynurse said...

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. Hugs to you.

tryingtoconceive said...

PJ,

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. Just so, so sorry.

I will be praying for you and your little one.

gwinne said...

I'm here from L&F. It's awful what you're going through, I know. I'm so sorry.

Road Blocks and Roller Coasters said...

I'm so sorry PJ. I hate it when doctors offer options like that in an effort to "help." My RE did the same thing to me and I left the office sobbing and continued for weeks after.

I am thinking of you and praying for the best.

Cassandra said...

I am so sorry. Holding out hope for you...

Anita said...

I am sorry you have to go through this PJ. I'm thinking of you!

Elle Charlie said...

Oh, no, PJ, my heart is with you. I'm so sorry - it isn't fair and I wish wish wish you didn't have to go through it. I am praying for you that whatever you decide to do it is what will bring you the most peace now and in the future.

{BIG HUGS}

Megan said...

I'm so sorry.

Kathleen said...

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. This must be so hard. So many of us are thinking about you...

Alex and Jill said...

Have been thinking about you a lot over the past two days...praying a lot as well.

((HUGS))

Shinejil said...

Hi, PJ dear! I hope today's u/s brings you peace of mind at the very least. You've done everything possible to make this work.

Sending lots of hugs your way.

Me said...

I'm so very sad to read this... Sincere hugs to you.

Sarah said...

Hey PJ, been thinking about you. Just popping in to see how you are. Hope to hear from you soon.

Big hugs